Ah, the first date—a blend of excitement, nerves, and anticipation. Navigating the dating scene can feel like starring in your own reality TV show, complete with plot twists and cliffhangers. But beware! It could be disastrous.
1. Talking About Your Ex Non-Stop
We get it; you have a past. But nothing screams "I'm not over them" louder than a date who can't stop reminiscing about their ex. Your date wants to get to know you, not your relationship history. Keep the conversation focused on the present.
2. Glued to Your Phone
Constantly checking your phone sends a clear message: "You're not that important." Whether it's scrolling through Instagram or answering texts, it’s a major turnoff. Show some respect and keep your phone out of sight.
3. Bad Manners
Chewing with your mouth open, talking with a full mouth, or forgetting to say "please" and "thank you" can be deal breakers. Good manners go a long way in making a positive first impression. Remember, you’re not just eating; you’re dining.
4. Being Rude to Waiters
How you treat service staff speaks volumes about your character. Being dismissive, rude, or overly critical of the waiter or waitress is a huge red flag. It shows a lack of respect and empathy, qualities essential for any healthy relationship.
5. Talking About Money Too Much
Discussing salaries, debts, or the cost of your meal can make things uncomfortable. It's fine to be ambitious and financially aware, but obsessing over money matters can come off as shallow or materialistic.
6. Over-Complaining
Everyone has bad days, but turning your date into a venting session about your terrible boss or frustrating roommates isn’t attractive. Keep the conversation light and positive. There's plenty of time to share life's challenges once you know each other better.
7. Lateness
Being late without a valid excuse suggests that you don’t value your date’s time. It’s simple: arrive on time and show that you’re excited and respectful. If you’re running late, a courteous text goes a long way.
8. Poor Hygiene
This should be a no-brainer, but it’s worth mentioning. Bad breath, body odour, or unkempt appearance can be immediate deal breakers. Basic hygiene is a must; make sure you’re looking and smelling your best.
9. Oversharing Personal Details
While honesty is important, there’s such a thing as too much information too soon. Sharing intimate or controversial details about your life can make your date uncomfortable. Pace yourself and let these topics come up naturally over time.
10. Dominating the Conversation
Nobody likes a monologue. If you find yourself talking endlessly about your interests, job, or achievements without letting your date get a word in, it’s time to hit pause. Good conversation is a two-way street. Ask questions and show genuine interest in their responses.
Avoid these turnoffs, and you’ll be well on your way to securing a second date, and who knows, maybe even a full-season romance. Don’t miss fresh episodes of Date My Family every Sunday at 8pm on DStv Channel 163 and GOtv Channel 3. Reconnect now on #MyDStv or #MyGOtv to enjoy all the drama and stream your favourite shows on the DStv Stream app or GOtv Stream app. Stay glued on all our social platforms for more updates.