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Online Dating: Stay Safe

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23 April 2023
Like any online platform, there are risks involved. It's important to take steps to protect yourself and stay safe when using online dating apps.
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Online dating apps have become increasingly popular in recent years, offering a convenient way to meet new people and potentially find romantic connections. However, like any online platform, there are risks involved. It's important to take steps to protect yourself and stay safe when using online dating apps. Here are some tips to help you stay safe:

  • Choose a reputable dating app: When selecting a dating app, it's important to choose one that is well-known and reputable. Look for apps with positive reviews and a large user base. Avoid downloading and using apps from unknown sources or untrusted websites, as they may not have proper security measures in place.
  • Protect your personal information: Be cautious about sharing personal information on your dating profile or with someone you've just met online. Avoid sharing your full name, address, phone number, or other sensitive information until you feel comfortable and trust the other person.
  • Use a pseudonym or nickname: Consider using a pseudonym or nickname instead of your real name on your dating profile. This can help protect your identity and privacy until you are ready to share your personal information with someone you trust.
  • Be cautious with profile pictures: Avoid using revealing or overly personal photos on your dating profile. Use pictures that do not reveal too much about your location or other personal details. Also, be mindful of sharing explicit or intimate photos with someone you've just met online, as they could potentially be used against you.
  • Do a reverse image search. Check that the profile images used by an individual on a dating app are genuine and not taken from someone else's profile. Here's how. 
  • Trust your instincts: If something feels off or makes you uncomfortable, trust your instincts. If someone seems too good to be true, they may be hiding something. If someone pressures you or makes you feel uncomfortable, it's okay to cut off contact with them and report them to the dating app's support team.
  • Meet in a public place: When meeting someone from an online dating app for the first time, always choose a public place, such as a coffee shop, restaurant, or park. Avoid meeting in private or secluded locations until you feel comfortable and trust the person.
  • Let someone know your plans: Before meeting someone from a dating app, let a friend or family member know your plans. Share details about where you are going, who you are meeting, and when you expect to return. Consider sharing your location with a trusted friend using a location-sharing app or feature on your phone.
  • Avoid excessive alcohol or drug use: Be mindful of your alcohol or drug intake when meeting someone from a dating app. Excessive use of alcohol or drugs can impair your judgment and decision-making abilities, making you vulnerable to unsafe situations.
  • Practice safe sex: If you decide to engage in sexual activity with someone you've met on a dating app, remember to practice safe sex. Use condoms and take appropriate precautions to protect yourself against sexually transmitted infections (STIs).
  • Report suspicious activity: If you come across any suspicious or inappropriate behaviour on a dating app, report it to the app's support team immediately. Most dating apps have mechanisms in place to report and block users who violate their terms of service or engage in harmful behaviour.

HELPLINES FOR POPULAR DATING APPS

  • Grindr: If you experience any safety concerns or incidents on Grindr, you can report them through the app or contact their support team via their website: https://help.grindr.com
  • Tinder: If you encounter any safety issues on Tinder, you can report them through the app or contact their support team via their website: https://www.help.tinder.com
  • Bumble: Bumble has a built-in safety feature called "Block and Report" that allows you to report any inappropriate behavior or safety concerns. You can also contact their support team via their website: https://bumble.com/en/help
  • OkCupid: If you have any safety concerns or issues on OkCupid, you can report them through the app or contact their support team via their website 
  • Match.com: You can contact their customer support team for assistance with safety concerns or issues. You can find their contact information on their website or within the Match.com app.

Additionally, here are some helplines in South Africa that you can reach out to for assistance with various safety concerns:

Tears Foundation: *134*7355# or 010 590 5920(24-hour helpline for victims of sexual assault)

South African Police Service (SAPS) Emergency Helpline: 10111 

Office for Inclusivity and Change (Cape Town): 072 393 7824 (24-hour helpline for victims of sexual assault) 

National GBV Helpline: 0800 150 150

LifeLine SA: 0800 150 150

AIDS Helpline: 0800 012 322

People Opposing Women Abuse: 011 642 4345

Toll-free Crisis Line: 086 157 4747

It's important to remember that if you feel unsafe or are in immediate danger, you should contact local law enforcement or emergency services for assistance. Don't hesitate to seek help if you encounter any safety concerns while using online dating apps or in any other situation. Your safety should always be a top priority.Â